Mother's Day

I have actually been noticing that I am not as grumpy this Mother's Day. I try to remember I do have D to care for and that I am still a mother. Although it is hard for some of my friends, who have relinquished their first child to adoption, I try to make them feel better in different ways.

Would you like to help because you know someone? Try maybe making a card or writing them a letter that is unique. I just read a great article that covers a little of what it might be like for those Mother's who don't have their kids or who can't have kids or even have disabled kids who can't make that handmade craft or leave that voice mail message that you love dearly.

It makes my heart feel better when the world is working in sync and remembering those who need to be remembered.

Natural Mothers (First mothers or birth mothers) all want to be remembered for that child they relinquished. It may not be long ago that it happened or it may be years and years now. Either way, there is still a piece of heart missing and sometimes it feels good to have others acknowledge that piece. Sometimes N-Mothers might want to be alone but sometimes they want a phone call or a visit with a friend. Trust your instincts and listen to your heart. Go with what feels right. Remember N-mothers, You are not alone.  I have started lighting a candle each year on Mother's Day for those who have lost their child (due to pregnancy issues and/or adoption) and it makes me feel like I have (in a small way) helped those ladies heal a little..  just maybe.